tomakeanoffer | [Friday survival check in]

Still tying to get back into the swing of things but here's a Friday post for you all.

So, if you are not familiar, this post is
• for being excited about the things you've done this week
• for asking for help if you need it
• for venting about anything that mind need to be flailed over (but do let us know if you just need to vent, or if you'd like advice).
• for showing off something cool you've done/made/experienced this week.
• for being generally enthused and excited about things that have happened.
• for just being thrilled that you survived.

Come drop into the comments and let us know how you're doing and how things have gone. If you need cheer leading or anything, feel free to say so, or if you just want to vent and don't want any advice or anything, let us know.

I do ask that if you have any triggering topics, that you mention them in the subject line, or first line of your comment. This is just so people can make informed decisions on what to read and keep everyone okay. <3 Thank you so much.

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From:

teaotter

Air quality was better this week, so I actually managed to get out of the house more, yay! And I've gotten my game idea to the point where I'm running my first solo on Saturday if my brain cooperates (*crosses fingers*). I'm very excited about finally getting back to running games!

From:

analise010

WOOHOO! May the running games be ever in your favor!

From:

tomakeanoffer

Ooooh, wishing you the best of luck with your game!

From:

analise010

I got some fucking CURVE BALL news this week. Remember the job I got that was supposed to be a done deal? I found out today that job is only for 6 months and my hiring manager was all, "Sorry if it wasn't explained clearly the first time."

Friends. I asked this girl POINT BLANK if it was a long term position and if I would be hired after six months and she said yes! Now, all of a sudden, it's "6 months, with the POTENTIAL to get hired." Whatever.

I spoke to my uncle about it and he helped me figure out how to spend this time to get the best outcome. It isn't ideal, but we're hoping that it can lead somewhere better.

From:

alexseanchai

wtffff

I fucking hate capitalism and all the incentives it provides to fuck people around like that

From:

analise010

It's really gross because I SAID THIS TOO! I get it. My mom used to work in management. Everyone has a sales quota or a number of bodies to put in jobs, but this is too far. How can anyone play with people's lives like that???

From:

alexseanchai

anybody who is at least one of queer, trans, disabled, female/femme/etc, a person of color, a practitioner of a minority religion, or making under $75K/yr? not really people. more like—not even chess pieces tbh. checkers pieces: no distinguishing characteristics significant to the game! (not without the piece in question putting a lot of work in first.)

From:

bookblather

lol what the ACTUAL fuck. I hate it when job recruiters just fucking lie.

From:

analise010

TERRIBLE. My uncle told me that, on the bright side, I know what the truth is now, so I won't be blind-sided in 6 months. The recruiter also told me that, I can leave any time I want, as long as I give my two week's notice. It isn't IDEAL, but it isn't the absolute worst.

From:

tomakeanoffer

*just offers so, so many hugs and good things* I'm really hoping you can make this work to the best for you.

From:

alexseanchai

I MOVED I MOVED I MOVED

I love this city so much, it's so welcoming and queer and green

...

why is writing cover letters for job apps such a brainfail

(have got some help. not sure if want more help?)

...

RAICES Texas is, as you see here, collecting handmade dolls and such via You Are Loved Dolls for giving to children who have nothing else—these are predominantly, I believe, undocumented migrant children who have been, ah, separated from their parents. I'm crocheting amigurumi.

...so far I have the top of one head? I'm working on it!

HEY FIBER ARTISTS come play

...

dear father, I asked for help figuring out a birthday present for my mother that I can have USPS bring to your doorstep. my presence at Thanksgiving is not such a thing.

in related news, fucking ow.

went to urgent care today at

beatrice_otter's urging. they sent me straight to chiropractor. am all :O face that it actually helped. medical suspicion is I overextended some muscular or ligamenty thing by sitting six hours plane seat, but they are confident it is not a nerve issue, which is pleasing unto them bc apparently that'd be worse. I am however to watch for a list of issues that would signal a nerve issue. prescription other than chiropractor: take moar Tylenol, also hot showers.

(also hot baths except tbh the tub in this apartment is...)

(I am not judging

alatefeline's or partner's housekeeping, okay, my own is shittastic and this issue might well be about as much their fault as the fuckening roaches in my just-vacated apartment were mine? but like. I ain't putting my bare ass in a tubful of water in that tub until it is thoroughly scrubbed and sanitized!)

...

I found a half dozen or so potential livingplaces on Facebook Marketplace and also one through a FB friend

...how I evaluate which to seriously consider, please? obv must physically visit those I'm seriously considering, but

(also: fell right the fuck in love with this one house for rent—but it requires ~2 roommates to split the rent with, at least one of whom must love gardening bc otherwise what a waste, so that's the highest difficulty of the places I've saved on FB Marketplace even though, assuming two roommates and equal rent split, it's the third cheapest and has many lots improve over at least one of the cheaper two, probably both, and also at least some improve over all the more spendy ones)

...

I found a yarn store an' a couple parks an' the liberry an' I haven't been to Multnomah Arts Center yet but I know it's there and I shall be venturing thataways in the not too distant future (same goes for Powell's)

I gotta set up Social Meets with all my localfrand (special highlight Victory of Hellenion bc reasons)

I am gonna go First Unitarian Portland service this weekend an' Rosetown Ramblers dance next weekend an' Columbia ADF ritual an' Oregon Flock & Fiber Festival weekend after that an' so many

so many

...

Thea-kitty loves

alatefeline and is comfy with alatefeline's partner, and has forgiven me for the plane ride

...

don't actually want to talk about personal religious on public post? suffice to say is going good too—better bc moved bc reasons

...

so pleased

From:

hitokage

I maaay be doing a little vicarious living through you right now (I want SO MUCH to be back in the PacNW. SO MUCH), so squee and yay for so much good things!

From:

alexseanchai

♥!

From:

teaotter

Congrats on the move!

From:

alexseanchai

Thanks ♥

From:

bookblather

You asked for housing evaluation things so here are some! Please ignore if you didn't actually WANT any.

First, figure out what you MUST have and filter for that. Like, my non-negotiable things are an in-apartment washer and dryer and a room of my own. Good things to have are allows pets (my cat is technically an emotional support animal so I can fight that fight if I HAVE to), a balcony, and more than one bathroom. So like, I would love a place that had those good things, but they're not strictly necessary, whereas I NEED an in-apartment washer and dryer.

Second, here's a bunch of really good questions to ask: right at this link. And check for outlets that work. We had a real problem in our last place with not enough outlets. And phone coverage, we forgot about that at this place. And emphasizing parking from the link's list. Parking is your friend.

YOU ARE SO AWESOME YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS.

From:

bookblather

OH ONE MORE check the size of the cabinets and dishwasher against the size of your dishes. We went almost four years without our cabinets closing.

From:

alexseanchai

I am not currently possessed of a car (and nor do I particularly relish the thought of driving in this city) so I am more concerned about transit access than parking. But I hear you. :) I also have 0 dishes atm—my entire kitchen is on long-term loan to my youngest sister and her favorite cousin, who are renting an apartment together at the university both attend, and frankly (bar the Pampered Chef stuff and the rainbow knife set middle sister gave me) I could hardly care less about getting any of it back—so there's that. :)

*bookmarks link* Thank you! Def good to have those questions to ask once I have narrowed to Seriously Considering.

Which I may have done for the links I've already found?

alatefeline looked at the lot just now and thinks there's something badly wrong with the house—which I already kinda suspected from the rent figure? but y'know—and suggested two of the others to follow up on, with preference to the one that's cheaper-but-farther. They also recommend looking at sites that aren't Facebook Marketplace, which is entirely reasonable! That just happened to be the thing that happened to show me a thing last night—kinda wish FB would let me opt out of seeing Marketplace on homepage on desktop view altogether, but—that prompted me to go look closer at things.

From:

analise010

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I am so so sooooooo happy that you got out of That Other State and live somewhere more warm and welcoming. :D

From:

alexseanchai

\o/

♥

From:

tomakeanoffer

All the hearts and good things and sleepy cats are still sleepy but know that i am thinking of you and hoping living works out and good things keep coming and yes.

From:

alexseanchai

♥♥♥

This morning Thea was doing a many pounce on the fishy-on-a-string that

alatefeline was dangling over the side of the bed. :)

From:

thefairymelusine

Well done on moving. (And sympathy on cover letter brainspace_

From:

alexseanchai

From:

hitokage

My life is a Pit of Despair and my Aries nature is about to have a complete meltdown because solid plans? PFFT INTO THIN AIR EVERY THREE DAYS. Going to have another talk with Wife tonight after the boys go to bed because things are Not Good in the brainmeats and it's making me Even Meaner Gramma, which isn't fair to anyone, least of all me. :p

But at least we aren't facing homelessness? Yet.... >_>

From:

alexseanchai

omfg ugh. :(

♥♥♥

From:

tomakeanoffer

*just kinda curls around and hugs so much*

From:

bookblather

This week I worked five days straight and did NOT collapse. I also painted my nails!

From:

alexseanchai

Woot woot!

I should paint my nails. :)

From:

bookblather

Ooh, let me know what color you pick if you do! I picked SpaRitual Greenhouse.

From:

alexseanchai

Sparkly green!

I have here CoverGirl Outlast in sapphire flare and Revlon something or other in Rebel Graffiti. The light in here is shit, mind you, and will remain so until maintenance deals with the overhead fixture, but the sapphire flare is a lovely deep blue—somewhere on the navy side of royal—and the Rebel Graffiti is, if it were sparkly I'd call it glitter: it's black and white dots in clear. Not sure whether I want to actually use it or just do the blue, though. Might do just blue on my toenails (bc As You Know Bob, toenail polish is a long-term commitment) and do both on my fingernails ('cause that isn't)?

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From:

tomakeanoffer

Oooh, go you! You are fantastic!

From:

thefairymelusine

I know it is not Friday any more and my headspace is weird at the moment: but, I hit 40,000 words on the current work in progress yesterday, and that is good and makes finishing it viable. And I made myself send novel No. 2 to a publisher on Friday, which is the first time it has been out in the wild.